Reprinted from FOXNews.com September 29, 2007

The abstaining young women spend time blogging and voicing their views on various Internet sites, using the Victoria’s Secret and Maybelline model as their inspiration. 

“There is definitely is an upcoming trend to wait until marriage even if it doesn’t have a religious motivation,” added a Hollywood-based psychologist.   “It’s a positive way for young women to hold on to some power and independence.  “Last year, Lima confessed to men’s mag GQ that she planned to stay away from bedroom buddies until her wedding night, despite the fact that millions of men have already seen her in next to nothing. 

“They have to respect that this is my choice.  If there’s no respect, that means they don’t want me,” said the 26-year-old Brazilian babe.

It depends upon whom you ask.  And the answer may suprise you.  But if it’s a married couple who has waited for sex before marriage in today’s world of casual sex as the norm - predominately the answer is a resounding “Yes!” from many couples today. In fact, it’s a growing trend.  However, if you ask any one in the modern world who has never tried it, their cultural response will usually be something akin to “Are you crazy?” 

Most marriages in the United States are not between people who haven’t had sex with each other, and it’s been that way since the early 20s. However, staying pure seems to be getting popular with the evangelical Christian crowd.  There are a number of different polls and studies that have shown couples who wait for sex until marriage have a better chance of overall satisfaction, higher than couples who do have pre-marital sex.  Many people are starting to listen.  Teen pregnancies are down, although this is one factor, along with more education about the consequences of poor choices when it comes to parenthood and STDs.

But.. why is purity so important, and why does God bless it? For a number of reasons, obviously. And all of them lead to God’s ultimate design for the Human Race.

Here’s why: Sex is truly the most intimate act between two human beings. Unfortunately, that fact has been numbed out of our society by a barrage of sexual images that become more and more “obscene” daily (see Foucault’s definition of Seduction, Sexuality, and Obscenity, “The History of Sexuality”.)  Seduction, the most enticing and exciting of human states, is what one would like to preserve throughout one’s marriage – but how can you do this, when it moves from the sexual to the obscene, all around us - an average of hundreds of images per day?

The complaint comes in the modern age of “boredom” in the bedroom – this is the most likely culprit. People stop seducing each other – long before the marriage ceremony. In fact, most of them have already used up most of the sexual positions that have ever been thought up by Kama Sutra, before the wedding day. Yet, they wonder why things go stale? Seducing takes effort, and there has to be a “carrot” on the stick to make humans continue this exhausting behavior long after the vows are said. Sex is one mighty powerful carrot.

One begins to see that God has in mind something very special in His design that we should wait until the bounds of commitment to reveal ourselves sexually.  What are your feelings about this?

Aliso Viejo, California - Despite the belief by many that “living together” is the same as marriage, and that life is “no different” after a wedding day if cohabitation has been prolonged, the fact of life keeps arising and dawning on all couples: Marriage changes relationships dramatically no matter how long the couple has been living together, and many marriages break up quickly even after years of living together beforehand. Some writers have suggested that the answer to this kind of problem is purity before marriage.

“I married my best friend,” says one former University instructor. “But he didn’t make a good husband.  After four years of living together happily, the fifth we married.  By year six it was over.  For one thing, there was no magic in getting married.  It seemed like our sex life sagged right after that.”  However, couples who wait for sex before the wedding day have an entirely different orientation that makes their relationships unfold in a uniquely different way that seems to result in an opposite trend.

“Couples who begin marriage without sex have a big advantage that nobody really has thought about since the 1920s or so, when divorce became easy”, says dating authority Lani Niederecker, MA, President of BlessedDates.com, a unique “courtship” website exclusively for Christian Singles.  “‘Pure couples today begin their lives together begin that way purposefully, willfully, given today’s sexual standards, it’s a choice. They’ve gone into the sexual relationship with full acceptance and a promise to stick it out through thick and thin.  In this light, sex is allowed to be far more intimate and special because of that commitment.” Ms. Niederecker points to a stack of books on dating, gender differences, sexuality, and psychology, and tells me to reference any of these findings in studies that show that people who wait have happier and more fulfilling sex lives.

“Here’s another fact.  Married people get laid more often than single people.  So people complaining that after marriage there’s not much sex, are usually men.  They wore out the woman as she tried to get him into a commitment situation, in sexual terms. Once married, she’s achieved her goal.  No wonder it diminishes after the wedding day.”

“Conversely, purely married couples have a different goal.  Women who aren’t having sex before marriage, know full well the expectations afterwards.  What they don’t expect is the satisfaction and sheer fun of exploring sex inside commitment.  It’s thrilling, and people haven’t tried it much in almost 100 years.”

As many maintain, just because one isn’t a virgin, doesn’t change the psychological  aspects of being pure with the future spouse. Some believe that it won’t matter if they cheat a bit a few days beforehand.  “That’s total rubbish,” Lani says as she is nonchalantly flipping through a Cosmo magazine and pointing out several articles that “scream desperation of women trying to get the man with free milk to buy the cow”, she says.

Taking a different tactic, she suggests I try “a different frame” to my thinking.  “It’s really the ultimate kinky, making a real life commitment based on respect and who a person is, and then having sex afterward, and watch it bloom like crazy as the sex gets more practiced and good.” She says this as opposed to the reverse, of finding sexual partners one likes, and then forcing “love” onto that “frame”.  “Many people say that they haven’t had thrills like this since high school - well - that’s probably the last time they really waited and knew more about the person first.”  Her point is well-taken as rushes of thoughts of those tingly first few stolen kisses everybody has probably had with someone new. “Sex just isn’t that complicated, people pretend it is - but anybody can learn good techniques. The whole ‘pure marriage’ relationship is oriented and unfolds in a completely different way, and continues along that path forever, really. It’s like one big long honeymoon, and the fact of the matter is you can verify that with well-run surveys.”

We hope you go to see FEMINISTSforLIFE.com and chime in with Sarah Palin.  The points made there about an absence of support for pregnant women on university campuses and other places when they do NOT want to abort their baby, are very valid.

 Sarah Palin, the Feminists for Life, and Commit First Fans agree!  Women deserve better than abortion.  They deserve to still be able to get their degrees and careers without ripping their babies out of their wombs.  This doesn’t mean an absence of choice, but MORE CHOICES for women.

Abortion will never leavce the USA, and the liberals always threaten us with this and never look at WHAT IS GOOD for women??  It isn’t to abort our babies, which is shown to hurt women in all ways, not just physically but spiritually - and it’s time that the country support us in having them instead of shoving us into clinics.

The Morning After Pill has to be more available as well, and that should be paid for, in our opinion - and not abortion.  That’s all Roe VS Wade is, is the point that the state doesn’t pay for this procedure.

Sarah Palin’s children went to public school.  The idea that they were educated in “abstinence only” is a fact we don’t know yet but it’s highly doubtful since no schools in the United States practice the art of suggesting that not having sex might prevent pregnancy and STDs.  However, the argument for abstinence only programs took a hit with such a prominent political candidate with her 17-year-old daughter currently unmarried and pregnant. The idea that this is before her wedding has the liberal world in horrors, showing us the usual MySpace “evidence” that the young man she intends to wed is being put into a shotgun ceremony.  How many kids have said, “I never want kids and want to party” before they wound up with kids they adore?  So many that the official statistic is at 60%. No reason not to exterminate the child, the Democrats would argue.  

But thank God, that won’t happen.  Because the Palins won’t support killing another child for the sake of convenience.  More black children alone, are aborted in three days in the United States, than all of the black people killed by the Klan or the Aryan Brotherhood.  Does that matter?  We feel it does.  Money is set aside specifically for “black women” to get free abortions.  We find that racist.

Fact is, Sarah Palin is an ordinary American wife and mother with a typical teenager who may know abstinence is best, even with Mr. Right - but only the Paparazzi will hold her to ridicule for not being perfect.  Sarah Palin could obviously could have hidden this fact about her child, rushed her off to a clinic, but the Palin’s are not the type to be dishonest or perform infanticide, if you know anything about their real history. Sarah is known for her ethics and fighting corruption.  It figures she’d take this type of bad news on the chin, hold strong to her ethics, as she also did with her own Down’s Syndrome Baby, and plod on with the challenges life brings.  What are your thoughts?