It depends upon whom you ask.  And the answer may suprise you.  But if it’s a married couple who has waited for sex before marriage in today’s world of casual sex as the norm - predominately the answer is a resounding “Yes!” from many couples today. In fact, it’s a growing trend.  However, if you ask any one in the modern world who has never tried it, their cultural response will usually be something akin to “Are you crazy?” 

 

Most marriages in the United States are not between people who haven’t had sex with each other, and it’s been that way since the early 20s. However, staying pure seems to be getting popular with the evangelical Christian crowd.  There are a number of different polls and studies that have shown couples who wait for sex until marriage have a better chance of overall satisfaction, higher than couples who do have pre-marital sex.  Many people are starting to listen.  Teen pregnancies are down, although this is one factor, along with more education about the consequences of poor choices when it comes to parenthood and STDs.

 

But.. why is purity so important, and why does God bless it? For a number of reasons, obviously. And all of them lead to God’s ultimate design for the Human Race.

 

Here’s why: Sex is truly the most intimate act between two human beings. Unfortunately, that fact has been numbed out of our society by a barrage of sexual images that become more and more “obscene” daily (see Foucault’s definition of Seduction, Sexuality, and Obscenity, “The History of Sexuality”.)  Seduction, the most enticing and exciting of human states, is what one would like to preserve throughout one’s marriage – but how can you do this, when it moves from the sexual to the obscene, all around us - an average of hundreds of images per day?

 

The complaint comes in the modern age of “boredom” in the bedroom – this is the most likely culprit. People stop seducing each other – long before the marriage ceremony. In fact, most of them have already used up most of the sexual positions that have ever been thought up by Kama Sutra, before the wedding day. Yet, they wonder why things go stale? Seducing takes effort, and there has to be a “carrot” on the stick to make humans continue this exhausting behavior long after the vows are said. Sex is one mighty powerful carrot.

 

One begins to see that God has in mind something very special in His design that we should wait until the bounds of commitment to reveal ourselves sexually.  What are your feelings about this?

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